Love decides to love on

So, I've brought up this question to a few people, and I kind of brought it before everyone who reads this blog, but nobody answered it. Perhaps it was confusing. The question is: Does God really have a specific person in mind that He wants us to marry? Because you know, it can be reasoned that if there is, then it shouldn't be wrong to divorce from the "wrong" person, right? But in Malachi (?)2 it says that the Lord hates divorce, and in 1 Corinthians 7 that a woman is not to depart from her husband, and if she does that she should remain single or be reconciled to her husband. And also that if a divorced person marries another, they have committed adultery. So, what about those people who marry "the wrong person"? Is there really a "wrong person"?

In a previous Bible study at The Office (as I have come to refer to my work place), Preston (the other trainer) mentioned that God's ultimate gift to us -- the greatest thing He could ever give us, is a relationship with Him. Although even non-Christians receive good things in this life we live on earth, they don't necessarily have the ultimate good thing, the greatest thing we could ever ask for. And also, God has made us "without excuse" (Romans 1:20) in the way of knowing that He exists and is, in fact, the Creator of the Universe; perhaps He also made us without excuse in the aspect of marriage and divorce.

Let me explain that one as well: I recently read a book called Personality Plus. It breaks personalities into four basic groups. Now, that doesn't mean people are as easy to master as "1-2-3" but it helps you to understand why a certain person may speak, act, or respond a certain way, and how you can help yourself to grow and how you can do a better job at getting along with all kinds of people. God has given us all the ability to get along with everyone, the problem is really in the hearts of all people. You need to learn how to change yourself for the better, and how to accept and help and understand other people better, and they in turn need to decide to change themselves as well as needed. So, God has made us without excuse -- it is possible to work out any marriage. We are without excuse -- if a marriage doesn't work, it is because one of the two decided it wasn't going to work, not because they married the "wrong person".

So, in conclusion: perhaps there is no "wrong person" after all; if you devote yourselves to honoring your vows, take them seriously--think about separating from a spouse as if you were trying to stop being a brother or sister to your siblings-- and seek to obey the Lord and not depart from your spouse, you can make the marriage work, and God will honor your obedience. But, if you wait on the Lord's timing, wait for the that "Mr./Mrs. Right", it will be so much better.